Loving Boundaries

It's a liberating and beautiful feeling when you no longer feel the need to "argue" your opinion. You no longer feel the need to change anyone else's perception of you. You no longer feel the need to change anyone else. You no longer feel the need to impress or make someone else proud of you. It's in that moment that you are free. It's in that moment that you truly love yourself. It's in that moment that you found your truth.

I went most of my life letting everyone into my space. I thought that this was the only way to truly love. How could I ever turn anyone away? It would be so unkind to do so. But, then I realized what was really going on. I didn't love myself enough to say NO or speak my true feelings when I wanted to. That my friends, is not love. This only creates resentment and anger. It isn't a genuine act. This resentment and anger just builds up until you can't take it anymore and you explode! Or you continue to do it until it makes you sick.

It wasn't until I got very ill that I realized this. It even took some time afterwards to really get it. I believe that we are all reflections of one another and that we show each other our own darkness. I'm not afraid of this and I embrace it. But, I also realized that self love needs to come into play here. Some relationships and friendships are meant to be let go of after the lesson has been learned. You can still love them, see your own reflection, work towards healing it, but still keep your distance. Especially, when the other person has no intention of looking within.

When you love yourself enough to speak your truth, that is when you can have healthy relationships in your life. People will then love you for you, your actions then become genuine, and you attract the right people into your life. When you don't stand in your truth and you pretend to be someone else in order for them to like you, that isn't love either. This fake person that you pretended to be now becomes your reality. When you look in the mirror, you despise your reflection. You despise it because, you see a stranger. You no longer see yourself anymore.

Why wouldn't you want people in your life who truly love you for who you are? Why would you want to hold onto those who don't? I've asked myself this question over and over again, especially with my friendships.

Are there certain people out there that you feel the need to impress? You want them to be proud of you? You cringe at the very thought of them not liking you? It's time to let that go. There is no need to impress anyone but, yourself. Are you happy with who you are? If not, maybe it is time to look within. When you can love yourself unconditionally, there is no need to impress anymore. You start doing things because you WANT to, not because you feel you have to. Others will respect you for being honest, even if it isn't what they want.

Over the past few weeks, I've had to set some really strong boundaries. It was the first time that I really put my foot down and said, "NO!" Because of this, I got a beautiful response and it improved the situation drastically. It is a very freeing feeling to be able to do this with out any guilt. I used to shutter at the thought of being in a confrontation with anyone, my heart would race, and I would clam up. I could never hold a compassionate conversation when I felt this way. Afterwards, I would feel extremely guilty! I would then apologize with out getting the same respect in return. Now, I am able to calmly state my feelings and leave it at that.

It's time to walk away from those who are no longer healthy for you. Send them your love and move on. If you keep allowing the behavior, you are accepting it. When we see ourselves as victims, we continue to be victims. It's also time to let go of the past. There is no need to live there anymore. Right now in the present moment is the only time we really have. So, take a few deep breaths and say with me, "I am not a victim, I am divine love. I am worthy of love. I now attract the right people into my life for my highest good."

If you are feeling angry, confused, exhausted, and overall fed up you aren't alone. This energy is pushing us very hard right now to let go of our fears and completely stand in our truth. This could mean a change in relationship with yourself and with others, confrontations surfacing, changing jobs, moves, health issues arising, etc. It's no wonder that our mother earth is experiencing so much turbulence. It is reflecting the emotional turmoil in the collective.

If we resist these changes, it only creates more fear and struggle. We must swim with these waves and let the divine of our understanding take us where we need to go. It's a time for courage, strength, and loving ourselves unconditionally so we can move past these blockages. If we can do that, we can expect a quantum leap forward! Just be patient with yourself. Rest when you need to and take good care of yourself. We are all experiencing this together.

Remember, a rainbow always follows a storm! There is much darkness and rebirth happening on our planet at this time. Nothing can truly change, unless we all look within. Holding everyone in my heart and sending so much love to those who are hurting right now. <3

Healing hugs,

Katrina

Spiritual Life Coach

Founder of Awaken Love